I believe that we should never stop improving ourselves. But sometimes that takes a backseat to the chaos that can overcome our lives. When we are on autopilot with our jobs, family, and other obligations, personal growth seems like something that we don’t even think about. It’s at these times when we seem to get stuck in a rut, the same routine day in and day out. Nothing in our life changes and although we may seem that everything is okay, and we are comfortable with the way things are, we need to be on the lookout for ways to keep moving forward. Personal growth can make us feel alive and see things in a whole new perspective. Maybe your life is going well, but there’s a little voice in the back of your head nagging you for something more.
1.) Believe in yourself. We’ve all heard about the power of positive thinking. How powerful it is. But have you really listened to your “self talk?” How many times a day do you say to yourself that you are not good enough? Not strong enough? Not thin enough? Not good looking enough? Not rich enough? Stop that right now! Every time that voice speaks shut it down. Change that thought and say “I believe in you!” Look at yourself in the mirror and say it every morning. If you don’t believe in yourself, then you cannot expect others to believe in you. Make a list of the qualities you like about yourself and watch that list grow as you gain more confidence in yourself.
2.) Give thanks. We all know that gratitude is the key to abundance. Being grateful for all that we have makes us realize how much we take for granted. But what about the people around you? Do you really thank them for the little things they do for you? Some people are so wrapped up in their own negative projections of themselves that they don’t even notice when someone gives them a hand. People just want to be acknowledged, even for the little things. A note, a handshake, a look in the eye with sincere gratitude can make someone feel special, and when you do that for someone else, others will do it for you.
3.) Change small things. There are patterns and behaviors that you don’t even realize you are doing, for example, taking the same route to work everyday, running the same path everyday, using the same cup for your coffee everyday, eating at the same place for lunch everyday. Whatever it is, those patterns keep you in your comfort zone. By changing one small thing a week your start to create ripples in you life that bring new and unexpected changes to your life. Like a pebble in a calm lake, those ripples become waves that can bring new experiences and let you see life in a new way.
4.) Find people who are making better changes in their lives. We often get stuck in the same old conversations with people, how sick they are, how annoyed they are or how bad things are. It’s easy to commiserate with people. In order to create change for the better we need to meet people who are positive, and working on their own personal growth. I find that the best places to meet people like that are in classes. The easiest places to go are fitness classes. Working on the physical body helps us clear the mind and releases endorphins that uplift us. The group mentality, where people are working to better themselves creates a sort of camaraderie, where each person wants to do better for themselves and be an example for those who have not yet achieved their personal goals. But there are mental and spiritual classes available too, that you can go to where people are gathering to improve the quality of their lives. You just have to make those first steps.
5.) Lift others up. I said in the beginning that if you don’t believe in yourself than how can anyone else? Right? Well, believe in people. When you see someone getting down on themselves, let them know how far they have come, how well they are doing and how much people care about them. Have faith that people really want to do good, that people really want to be good. Allowing people to be negative around you perpetuates their belief that that is what is expected of them. Thus you will allow more negativity to surround you. When you expect the best from people, they will give it to you. When you lift others up, and they rise to the occasion, you have also done good for yourself. That inner voice no longer nags at you that you are not good enough, because creating positive change make you feel good inside and out.